A couple of weeks ago, I stopped having orgasms. It wasn’t intentional. I just didn’t have the desire. What has changed in me sexually & spiritually is significant enough for me to take note & put intention into the practice.

The change was gradual. When I would go to masterbate, I couldn’t find any porn that had the vibe I was looking for. The types of porn I’d watched and enjoyed for years, now turned me off. My tastes have changed. So I began to use my imagination instead and that worked for a while. I would imagine making love to my crushes or my future spouse and create the most beautiful scenarios. What would happen is that I would start fantasizing before I picked up my toys or began to touch myself, and then fall asleep, without ever orgasming. Things kept gradually evolving to where I am now, which is using my sexual (life force) energy & my imagination to explore realities (some sexual & some not) with the intention to raise my vibration, experience pleasure, & manifest. Some call this “sex magic.”

Do I orgasm? Sometimes but mostly not.

Do I touch myself? Sometimes but mostly not. No penetration though.

Do I imagine I’m having sex with someone? About half of the time.

Can you have an orgasm without touching yourself? Yes, we all can.

Your mind will really open up & you will really understand the power that we all possess when you orgasm to the thought of house, or money, or a success business venture, or something else that you want, without EVER masterbating yourself.

What I began to experience spiritually is a greater connection to my Inner Being & my intuition. I am able to more clearly receive messages from my Inner Being and have the energy and inspiration to act on them. My imaginings & visions are stronger and that fog I would feel around the messages I was getting isn’t there. I feel normal. I feel natural. I feel like this how I am supposed to feel ALL of the time and how I felt before was not normal or natural. I was prompted to reflect on my relationship with sex, with this energy, with myself. The porn I used to watch was no longer in alignment with me. Neither are the old fantasies I had. How I saw myself in these fantasies explained so much of why I manifested certain relationships and even how it was affecting other areas of my life, like my work & my health. Spirit told me that its time to create a new vision of my own sexuality and self-image, and be intentional about how I use this energy. Let’s talk more about the energy.

Sexual Energy is Life Force Energy. As Kevin Gates says in the video below, its “chi.” There are so many way to talk about this energy. You can call it Unconditional Love, God, Source, Inner Being, or Spirit. The energy is neutral until we put an intention on it. The intention that we put on it is what charges it negatively or positively & gives it is direction. An orgasm or sex ought to be intentional. I don’t mean consent. Thats a given and thats a different thing. What I mean by “intentional” is that, all parties involved ought to determine what the purpose of the experience is, how they want to feel emotionally, express it to all parties involved, & focus on that throughout the duration of the experience.

For example, I am having a solo experience & the purpose of the experience is to manifest more ease in my life & work. During the experience, that is what I want to feel & will focus, with my imagination, on feeling ease in my life & work activities.

It might seem awkward or weird at first to imagine something “non-sexual” but after a while you will realize that so much of what we are attracted to in life or guided towards is because of this energy. Here’s another example.

I am having a shared experience & the purpose of the experience is manifesting landing a particular job that I want & the emotion that I want to feel in that job is confidence. I express this to my partner and they agree to share the same intention. We agree to focus, with our imaginations, on me working my new job & feeling confident.

In that last example, the two people involved in the experience have agreed on the same intention and that is key. All parities involved need to agree on the intention and have the same intention. If there is a disagreement, talk about it and come to understand what the other person is wanting out of the experience. This is when communication is needed. Be open-minded & understanding. We all have ideas about how we want these experiences to go and what we want out of them. Sometimes it can be difficult to be honest about it, even when we’re by ourselves. The more we can, not only, understand our intentions but speak them, the more powerful we become at manifesting intentionally. When you can come to an agreement about the intention of the experience, the experience becomes supercharged and is a catalyst for powerful growth. In the case where an agreement cannot be reached or if the shared intention is actually negative, walk away. It is not worth it.

Negativity creates negativity.

In the video below, Kevin Gates talks about how he intentionally retains his semen (which he learned from boxing) and uses it for creativity, as well as how he only has sex with partners where there is shared intentionally behind the act. Watch the video and share you thoughts!

Ok, let me know! Do you do semen-retention, orgasm-denial, sex magic, or any other practices?